5 Ways to KILL a Perfectly Good Story

Originally posted on Kristen Lamb's Blog:

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Over the weekend Hubby and I rested and watched movies and we took turns who could pick the film. Hubby loves dramas and war films. I prefer horror and space aliens. Anyway, Hubby chose the drama Unbroken and that is three hours of my life I will never get back.

Halfway through the movie, I had Hubby pause to check out how much more of this film I would have to endure, and I’m pretty sure I was worse than sitting with a young kid in a dentist’s waiting room.

I’m BORED! *plays with spit*

Though the intentions behind making the movie were noble and the cinematography superb, the fictionalization fell flat. And, since I don’t like wasting my time, I figure we can at least look at what went wrong with the movie and use it as a cautionary tale and example of what not to do.

What bugs…

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The Disabled Dating Taboo: My thoughts.

There are few dating taboos nowadays. People of different races can date each other without ridicule. You can date people of different faiths. You can choose who, where, and when you can date… These are just a few things that have changed in the 21st century dating wise.

Oddly, not much has changed when it comes to disabled people dating normal people. This is very much still a taboo in most countries. And it’s a situation that makes people uncomfortable, and sometimes disgusted.

If you’re ready to talk about it, keep reading.

When I was younger, I wanted to be just like my Dad. I wanted to get married one day, have children. The wheelchair was never an obstacle to my dreams.

Years later, in Jr. High, I started asking women out. (And endured many glares and looks of pity.) I had no luck. So naturally, I tried to joining conversations with other guys about our girl problems. They looked at me with shock. It’s like they never expected a disabled guy to even be interested in women. (Worse they thought I was asexual.)

People still seem surprised to this day. I think this is mainly nurture rather than nature, due to the public’s perception of the disabled community as “inspirations” or “medical miracles”. Due to these perceptions, we aren’t considered normal, thus many people don’t treat us like humans but rather drains on society. (Attitudes started to change dramatically since 1990. Though many are still closed-minded.)

But I kept asking girls out at that school, and when half of the women in the school said hell no, I stopped asking anyone out. So I tried to figure out why I was being rejected.

I remember asking a relative why disabled people never get dates, and she said that it’s because people in wheelchairs smell too much. Then she said I’d have to hire a prostitute to get one… This definitely added insult to injury to a fourteen year old boy.

Then, there was what I call the “classic” response. “Women don’t want to be date you. You don’t have anything to offer!” I couldn’t understand the hostility and still don’t. Everyone has something to offer, no matter if they physically able to do certain things or not.

I haven’t had much luck as an adult either. Ignorance is a disease that seems to affect people from all walks of life.

I’ll never know why some people act the way they do about the idea of a disabled man wanting a relationship one day, or someone in a relationship with a disabled person. All I have is a theory. And it has to do mostly with human history.


Ignorance is a force that has been around forever, and always will be. And it’s what keeps taboos alive. Question is, what should we in the disabled community do about? What can we do about it?

Absolutely nothing. You can’t force an ignorant person to change. And changing a taboo is impossible. (Especially one that has been prevalent for a few thousand years.)

I say, let’s just live our lives. Forget the opinions of the ignorant. Let’s not get disheartened when we can’t get a date, and keep moving on. After all, that’s what we as humans need to do.

This phrase may be a stereotype, but it always applies; there are plenty of fish in the sea. Especially in places you can’t see right away.

Most of all, have patience. Treat the ignorant kindly, even though they are total asses. And also remember that no one ever gets a date right away… Be friends with people of the opposite sex. You never know if someone is open to dating you until you get to know them better.

So let’s get out there, and destroy this festering taboo once and for all.

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Why I blog…

Lately , I haven’t been blogging much here. I’ve been busy with my novel. (Mainly trying to find reviewers, promoting and throwing around ideas for book two.) Right now I’m working on a comics script, and I’m trying to think of how I want the final page to look in my mind… Besides that, it feels like I’m swimming through a vat of corn syrup that is life.

I think I’d forgotten how much better I felt when blogging. Not just posting about where to buy my book, etcetera , etcetera. The reason I blog is to tell about the truth I’ve found in life and writing. And to give a glimpse in my view of life from a wheelchair.

Not to garner pity, but rather understanding that even though I sit all day, I have the same wants, needs and dreams as any other man. This blog is a safe place to express my feelings.

What better reasons to get back into blogging than these?

If you’ve noticed, I been doing some minor house cleaning in this space. If you have any thoughts, opinions, or concerns about my coding let me know.

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